I see it all around me. Miserable, unhappy people who didn’t fall victim to anything but their own poor stereotypes and unreal expectations in others. The one thing though they all have in common is they took the plunge…. and got married.
Marriage sucks. That’s what the popular consensus is - or maybe it’s my problem that I have surrounded myself with thirtysomething’s with negative attitudes. Sure - they exist - happy married people that is; but for the most part the view of marriage by those who are in it is something akin to a prison sentence. Think about it! 70% of marriages in this country end in divorce. I am fairly certain now that the other 30% must involve a literal prison sentence (Scott Peterson) or a nasty pile-up on the interstate/September 11th type event that leaves a lot of people filling out Social Security forms with the box marked “Widowed”.
It’s been on my mind a lot lately for various reasons. I’ve paid more attention to conversations from both sides of the gender mix. I hear these ridiculous generalities:
“He’s too controlling.”
“She nags me constantly for the stupidest little things. I feel like a beaten man.”
“He doesn’t care what I think.”
“My needs are not important to her.”
“We have sex twice a year - if that often.”
It makes me sick. Somehow these two people were once “in love” enough to buy the rings and exchange the vows - but now they could not hate each other more. They are bitter enemies. The last thing they would ever do is something for each other. An of course none of them walked down that aisle saying “5 years from now I will wish him/her dead and be in a bitter court battle over custody of our Bernese Mountain Dog.”
It’s just how it is sometimes. I am at a point in my life where I have already watched a dozen friends divorce, and I am hearing about more and more every day. Funny thing is to me - the new people I hear about getting divorced are people married 25+ years. These people waited that long to hate each other that much where a decision was warranted.
Now the one common thread amongst ALL the cases I keep hearing about is this:
THE MAN GETS FUCKED OVER THE MOST.
Situation 1: My buddy Steve got married way too young. He knocked a girl up when he was 19 and she was 20. They married five months later and lived together in a small apartment over his parents house. They had two more kids after the first. Finally, about 7 years in to this marriage, they had saved enough by both working to buy a house. A month before they bought the house officially, we went out for drinks to celebrate. Steve’s wife confided in me at that point that she was miserable, and as soon as Steven bought the house she would leave him. I passed the comment off as “drunken anger”. Sure enough, 4 months after they moved in, his wife kicked him out. Within the first month - a man in a white truck was parked at the house overnight. Turns out she had been cheating on him for a while. A restraining order was filed against Steve because he - as any rational man who just got dicked out of his savings, his new home, and his kids to some other asshole - got angry.
Now Steve was not the “Husband of the Year” - but Steve also never cheated on his wife despite their problems. His wife lived in the house for a year before the bank foreclosed. Steve sees his kids twice a month now on weekends. The kids are not doing real well because of the anger between their parents. While I could say the biggest victim in this case were the kids - Steve pays his wife almost half his paycheck every week because she didn’t want him anymore…..
CONCLUSION: STEVE GOT FUCKED.
Situation 2: Barry was a prominent dentist who, twenty-one years in to his practice had accumulated a good amount of wealth. This afforded his wife Beth to stay at home with their kids instead of working. The kids are now preparing to graduate high school and Beth has had too much time to watch fat cows like Rosie O’donnell on The View every morning. While Barry works, Beth watches television, then lunches for four hours with her girlfriends, spends $250 in an afternoon shopping for shoes - and then goes home to her middle-aged husband to complain about “nothing in particular” for whatever reason. Maybe she resented staying at home because she had no satisfaction from a career like her friend Nancy who works on Wall Street, never married, and vacations with her pool boy to Bora Bora so she can sleep with a twenty-five year old without feeling guilt.
Meanwhile - Barry is a great provider, but his wife has always been kind of a nag. He plays golf at the country club, and he has even been known to hire an escort now and then. But overall, he’s your average guy just trying to enjoy life and look forward to retirement and maybe selling his practice.
Well fuck that. Beth’s resentment has grown too much to stay with her husband, so after 26 years of marriage - she asks for a divorce. After trying to contest it, Barry gives up and gives in because she’s already rejected him and it’s not worth saving the marriage. They have equity in the house, plus Barry’s practice and investments that total almost 2 million dollars. Beth hired a wonderful lawyer and because of the laws in this country, she got half of everything Barry had earned in his lifetime. Why shouldn’t she? She stood by him long enough to be entitled to her share when SHE made the decision to end it. There is no benefit to staying married for Beth when she can have all that money. In fact, she has another friend who is a financial planner and put her in to an annuity that will pay all her fixed bills while she can go start the career she probably could have had anyway if she stayed married to Barry. Barry however, has much of his equity tied up in his practice and he needed to keep that going - so he now works twice as hard, lives in a one bedroom apartment instead of the 4400 square foot house he called home the last dozen years - and uses his free time to drink a lot because the bitch he called wife screwed him over.
CONCLUSION: BARRY GOT FUCKED
Situation 3: Cliff lives with Shannon. They have been married for 3 years. They have a 6 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. Cliff beats Shannon a good once or twice a week. He often does it right in the trailer park where they live - but every now and then he will do it in public when they go out for Sunday dinner at Denny’s or Howard Johnson’s. Shannon is too simple to know how to get out of this abusive relationship. But luckily, Shannon’s neighbor Pedro, the same pool boy who Nancy vacations to Bora Bora with - feels obliged to be there emotionally for Shannon while Cliff is working his sanitation job. One thing leads to another and they have sex. Cliff comes home for an unexpected lunch, sees the trailer rocking back and forth, grabs the shot gun out of the trunk of his 1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Supreme, and blows them both away while the kids watch. The police show up three hours later and arrest Cliff. He’s sentenced to life in prison for a double homicide because he is white and can’t afford Johnny Cochrane (not to mention Mr. Cochrane is deceased at this time), but the judge says he’s lucky not to get the chair for his actions. The kids spend their lives in and out of foster homes and eventually Cliff’s son meets his dad in prison some 18 years after his mom’s murder because he got convicted of dealing crystal meth. Cliff’s daughter gains more success when she moves to Nevada and gets a job at the Bunny Ranch as a slightly-higher-profile-than-a-street-corner prostitute.
CONCLUSION: Now this one is more difficult. Obviously Shannon got fucked because she is dead. The kids definitely got screwed over - but in my opinion the person who suffered the most is Nancy who now has to vacation with a man she met on the train whose sexual stamina is like one tenth of Pedro’s….. so:
NANCY GOT FUCKED.
Ok, fine, I stray off subject for the sake of entertainment - but the fact is, situation 2 seems to happen the most in this country. They may not be rich dentists who use escorts, but a lot of average guys get taken to the bank by their wives who decide they want something different. So as a man, your role in the new world of marriage, is to accumulate as much as possible so that someday you can be your ex-wife’s funding source.
It’s a negative view - but it’s all too real. Single women out there will argue against me on this subject, but the numbers don’t lie. If 70% of marriages end in divorce - and the man gets fucked the majority of the time a pool boy’s death isn’t involved - then why would a man ever take the chance he will someday get to fund his ex-wife’s hatred of him?
Answer and ultimate conclusion: Don’t get married. Live together. Have kids. Treat each other right. Realize that you being a shithead of a guy or you being a bitch of a woman to each other has serious repercussions. Stop expecting everything and giving nothing. Love each other. Love your kids. Take away the stereotypes of what a wife should do or be like. Stop with the unrealistic expectations that he should read your mind. Treat each other like you would want to be treated yourself…. all the time…. not just when he/she isn’t pissing you off.
And laugh at all the dumb guys who continue to book banquet halls and ministers so they can someday be the girl in the white dress’s pension.
What is your experience/views of marriage?
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I know… I know….. Nancy got screwed over too. I was very clear about that. I almost titled the blog:
NANCY GOT FUCKED
where was I when I was getting fucked??? haha
Seriously…. how much do you miss Pedro?
*******It’s funny that now that it’s finally women being able/allowed to choose divorce and coming closer to getting out of it what they put in, men are objecting to it and marriage. Where were the keen eyes for inequities the previous 3000+ years?*******
It’s not unlikely that the wives got f**ked six ways from Sunday all throughout the miserable marriage.
Never doubt that if men physically had babies, everything would be vastly different.
Men started marriage so they’d have some propriatary assurance of who was the father of the progeny and who would inherit.
It became popular because it protected the children and thus the future.
Man invented divorce (legally or effectively for men only for most of its history) once there was a surplus of women and therefore less need for their exclusivity of any single woman.
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“THE MAN GETS FUCKED OVER THE MOST.” “and the man gets fucked the majority of the time a pool boy’s death isn’t involved”
I must vehemently disagree with this especially where there are children. Compare the lifestyles of most any mom and kids to most any dad’s 2, 5, 10 years after the divorce, with the possible rare exception of very high profile, high income folks.
only a man would believe the pool boy or replacement thereof was of any concern, consideration or consequence at all for the woman.
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I hasten to add most every woman would mourn any death and especially murder. She would also regret the childish hubris, vanity, maladjustment and revenge that motivated the socio/psychopathic murderer.
Steve, Barry and Cliff and all other loser husbands should be grateful that in general women are still less inclined to violence.
Women in general give sex to get love; men in general give love to get sex. It is easier for a woman to find someone willing to have sex with them than it is for a man. And a good vibrator is even easier.
it shows complete ignorance on your part to think that men dont mourn the death of a person that they or some one else has killed. and on the part that men should be greatfull that women are “less inclined to violence”, thats just rediculouse! women provoke violence by takeing such a passive role. all of the problems listed above could have been prevented with good comunication skills. im not defending the man in the third case but cases 1 and 2 are comletely insane! you are saying that its the mans fault that the woman got bord? had the women approached their significant other and had a discusion and presented their problem in a non-condesending mannor then the problem could have been taken care of. that being said it was irresponcible for berry to be hireing escorts but at the same time HIS WIFE WAS CHEATING ON HIM. and in the first story HIS WIFE WAS CHEATING ON HIM. in both scenarios instead of aproaching their husbands and oppening up to their husband they chose to find comfort in a man that was ok with fucking a married woman!! placing blame on a cingle party would be irrational and ignorant, but calling a man who is guilty of being distracted by trying to provide a life and a future for his family a “looser husband” is completely out of line! any self respecting married person will choose not to make themselves emotionlly/sexually vounerable to somone of the opposite sex. when you play with fire you get burned, and beeing so passive to the point where a woman cant open a conversation which might cause a debate is definately not the mans fault, havent you ever had make up sex? to conclude i feel very strongly that if you cant take the heat than you might as well find a gay man to live with cause a marriage wont work for you honey. and fr all you men out there keep working and stay optomistic, the best thing that you can do is incourage your spouse and for Gods sake make sure that you dont marry a woman who wont hang out with other married women insteaad of their slutty fem nazi friends who cant or wont find a guy and stick with him
Women give sex to get love? Since when? They give sex to get the guy’s assets.
Yes. Of course. I, and every other male currently alive, personally fucked over every female currently alive. For the past 3000 years.
So, therefore, naturally, it is right to swing in the polar opposite direction. It is just to take on the behavior of an oppressor that is now as dead as the dinosaurs, assuming said oppressor was as vile as you have pictured him. This is, quite naturally, justice.
The majority of us want peace, stability, and equality in a relationship.
The majority of you want revenge.
Upon a person or group of people now long dead.
You are insane.
Even on the wild assed assumption that this was, by some convoluted “logic”, actual justice… it is not a stable base for a culture. To make an analogy, MLK would never advocate this kind of bullshit, because ultimately, it brings no unity, only further conflict.
If you wish revenge, you shall have it… for a little while. Perhaps 10 years, collectively. After which, your wish for vengeance will become the proverbial “tree that falls in the forest, with no one around to hear it”.
Actually you’re completely wrong… divorce hasn’t been an option for men for the last 3000+ years. If you go back beyond the split of the roman catholic church then no one was allowed to get divorces in the christian religion for hundreds of years. And even after protestantism divorce was still frowned upon to an extent that getting one would completely astrocize you from your community.
The christian religion wasn’t the only religion that discouraged divorce. The muslem religion made divorce illegal for hundreds of years as well.
If you go back even further in North America, the native tribes that lived here before the Europeans were matriarchical societies… meaning that woman held more power than men.
If you really want to look at a period of time when men had more power than women to divorce without any social stigma, it really doesn’t exist.
Also divorce was created, not because there was a surplus of women, but to ensure proper paternal lines. Divorce was even frowned upon in ancient Greece. It was preferable to kill your wife.
You’re also wrong about the average lifestyle of men and women after a divorce. It is most definitely heavily in favour of the women.
You must be forgetting about all the “annulments” of multi year marrriages even with children. (John Kerry’s is one that springs to mind) and all the women and children who were abandoned by their husbands without a divorce. All religions discourage divorce so yes, that does lead to murder and abandonment and annulment for the “religious” man.
Please cite some specifics for your generalities. Which native American tribes gave women more power than men? What sort of power, in regards to what? Men have always had more power in all places with the notable exception of the Amazon women and a few other groups.
Men have always been less ostricized after a divorce. They have more options. Please show me any actual evidence this is NOT true?
Please show me stats or links about U.S. womens’ standard of living improving after divorce at any stage.
You say: “Also divorce was created, not because there was a surplus of women, but to ensure proper paternal lines.”
Does this NOT mean that men wanted to have consistant sex (and until the advent of reliable birth control this also statistically meant kids) with new women? This option is only available if there were excess women available, which occurred long ago. Also, until recently many women died during or after a childbirth which ocurred an average of every 2 years throughout their fertile period making it easier to go for the proverbial younger model without divorce.
Senecas (a Northeastern Indigenous tribe) honor their women!!! I know this because I AM one! We selected the men from each of eight clans, or groups of families, who would be the leaders. They would carry out the laws in which were created and decided upon by everyone.
Our laws and our religion go hand-in-hand. We practice a religion which we call “The Great Law”, or as some refer to it, “The Good Word”. Basically, our religion and laws are based upon our respect and treatment of one another, the earth, and all living things. Our religion is practiced in a series of songs and dances and prayers, which are all passed down within the family groups, or clans. Certain clans had certain responsibilities and duties.
There is SO much of that which I have yet to learn. But at my age, I know a lot compared to others my age who have studied Native American people. Sorry for going so far off topic!
I agree that men get the short end of the stick. My dad got dicked over in his second marriage. When he and my mom got divorced though, different story. Plus, my mom had to take care of my brother and me because my dad was at a place in his life where, he says, he still had some growing up to do. Unfortunately, he did all the growing up with his second wife… who ultimately took him to the cleaners.
But my dad is so much happier now that they have divorced. I am happy for him. I think that anyone who goes through something such as a divorce, is always better off than if they sitck it out for the kids. People think children are dumb and naive. Not so- we don’t give children enough credit for being perceptive, honest, and they know far more than we as adults think they know! Besides that, children for the most part, are resilient.
I won’t bother rebutting my argument about Native North Americans since someone has already been kind enough to do that for me, but if you want a reference for that try reading the first chapter of The People of Canada by J.M. Bumstead.
I think I didn’t explain myself very well the first time through, so I’ll clarify a bit. I don’t disagree with the fact that there have been certain points in time in which women did get the short end of the stick so far as divorce is concerned. My argument was mainly that divorce was not a real option for the majority of human history. Realistically divorce has only become an option in very recent time. You have to take into consideration that marriage has, for the most part, been linked to religion, and as such the laws involving marriage followed religious canon. If those religions forbade divorce than divorce would not be an option.
Therefor divorce only became an option when two things happened. The first being a seperation of church and state, which allowed secular marriage. The second being religious groups that allowed divorce.
Both of these things occured roughly around the same time. So really we’re only looking at a period of about 150 years that divorce has been a real option for men or women. There are obviously a few exceptions to this but when observing the issue from the standpoint of typical western history they are barely worth mentioning.
To say that women have been brutally mistreated in divorce for thousands of years is a gross exaggeration, and that’s pretty much all I was trying to get at before. If you want a reference to everything I’ve said here look up the history of divorce on wikipedia and I’m sure it will match up everything I’ve said here pretty much.
I’m sure that most of your argument is based on more recent history though, probably looking at divorce in a specific time period and region, such as The United States in the first half of the 1900’s. I won’t argue the fact that divorce was unfairly weighted in favour of men, but that makes sense since sexist attitudes that permeated our culture for thousands of years were still strong. However that unbalance began to shift quickly post World War II and women were set on the path to becoming equals with men in society. That was due largely to women being allowed to enter the workforce while men were away at war.
I personally think that it is a safe estimation to say that women have been considered near equals to men since the 1970’s in every way. Sexism isn’t really an issue anymore and really hasn’t been for more than 30 years. Even pay equity had been pretty much evened out by the 80’s.
All of these great leaps forward for women were due to several factors that aren’t worth mentioning, except for the gender rights movement that dates all the way back to the formation of the first french repulic. The problem with that movement is that after they reached their initial goals of equality in the 70’s they continued lobbying for special rights. I already know that I’ll get blasted for saying that so I’ll give a nice solid example of special rights women have lobbied for. Different physical fitness requirements for women in labour intensive jobs. In Canada women have a different set of physical requirements than men for becoming a fire fighter or a police officer. I’m not against women having those jobs, but I do think that they shouldn’t have their own physical requirements cause it potentially makes them the weak link in that team.
Anyways to get to my point… the lobbying of those gender rights groups also led to an unfair balance in divorce in favour of women. The main argument used being that women are the caregivers to the children in the relationship. I have nothing against child support payments, I’m all for them, (My mother received them when my parents got divorced) but saying that a women deserves a cut of her ex-husbands salary just because they were married is ludicrous. That is based on the dated idea that women were generally not in the workforce. Most families are double income families now though so that should be done away with. Still I’ve seen several examples of this still occuring in my everyday life.
I don’t need to reference anything for that. I’ve seen enough divorced couples on my own without looking up sources. My mother has a paid off house and another home that she rents out. My father lives in a one bedroom apartment.
Cassandra, why the hell would you ever think the woman is entitled to the same standard of living as the man after the relationship is over? Same as at the time of breakup I can see, but what possible rationalization can you come up with for this? I mean, if the kids are entitled to the higher standard of living, wouldn’t it make more sense to award custody to the higher earner?
Aside from “I want a lifelong meal ticket without the obligation to stay with the man” I mean…..
Maybe those scenarios happen more often than not. It didn’t happen like that in my case at all. I got fucked, continue to be fucked and see many more years of being fucked in the future. I guess that’s what happens when a woman marries for love and then realizes what a pussy shrivling asshole the guy really is. I don’t know how these women who walk away with all this shit manage it…but I think one of them needs to offer some classes so that women like me will pick our next exhusband out of the right line up.
I don’t deny that women get screwed over by bad abusive men too. This really is more of a “Why men don’t want to get married in the first place - because they run the risk of financial strain sometimes no matter what they do.”
True, but they also run the risk of having to wash their own underwear if they don’t!
Yea we do run that risk but, I would rather pay a maid $100 a week to take care of that for me instead paying half my salary so she could sit on her ass.
i have no problem washing my own underwear. Anyone who has a problem with that…well, probably has much bigger problems. Is that REALLY your answer to this? “either fork over half of your earnings or wash your own underwear” are you kidding with this? I’m 39, never been married and have an excellent life.
if a woman truly believes that “washing her husbands underwear”, or anything of the sort, is worth a fraction of what was described in these stories, she is the problem.
maybe if they got a job and helped pay the bills they would realize that just because you complain about how hard their day is doesn’t change the fact that it was a walk in the park as compared to the day of the man they will be devestating
“maybe if they got a job and helped pay the bills they would realize that just because you complain about how hard their day is doesn’t change the fact that it was a walk in the park as compared to the day of the man they will be devestating”
are you saying that a man’s stupid 9 to 5 job is harder than a woman taking care of the kids and house 24/7?? That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard.
Don’t get me wrong, I am NOT pro marriage, but a lot of the times the woman is the one that gets screwed over… IF she has a job AND takes care of the kids and also has a husband that expects dinner on the table every night at 6, I feel for her… really, I do. And I also feel bad for whoever has the bad luck to be YOUR partner h3nry, seeing as though you’re definitely a sexist *&$@.
don’t bother responding, I’m not coming back to read…
Are youo really trying to convince people that a washing machine, dryer, vacuum, dishawasher are some way not doing 99% of the work women claim is “so difficult?”
By the way, your calling the poster sexist pretty much sums up what you really think of men.
Have a nice life herding cats.
That isn’t all that is required of a housewife, especially if she wants to have something of a life.
Also, if you had been reading for comprehension, you would have realized she said a job, and taking care of the kids.
The comment he said was a mite sexist, in the fact that he insinuated that nothing a woman does is on par with what a man does. There are plenty of women that do just as taxing variants of work as men. Your comment was also along those lines, which was just ignorant of you.
If you go into any sort of relationship with these negative opinions, be it in love or business or something else, of course it is going to fail. You’re setting yourself up for it. Plus, you could always not be an idiot and get a prenuptual.
Ah, yes, the washing underwear bogeyman. Let me see. Fifteen seconds to put underwear in washer, add soap, turn it on, and walk away. Later, fifteen seconds to remove from washer, put in dryer, and punch button to start. Later, fifteen seconds to remove, fold and put in underwear drawer.
At $60/hr, that is about $1 a week. At minimum wage, which is all most wives earn around the house, that’s about 10 cents a week.
There are also instances where the woman has to pay because she is the one who has more money. It is based upon mutual worth and income.
Biased, stereotypical, uneducated rants for the lose.
Classes for how to fuck over a guy when you divorce him??? WOW. I feel sorry for the next guy…taking that BS mentality into another marriage.
Will you tell Skorp I truly want to be Skorped???
marriage…dunno..been there done that..but deep inside im really looking forward to go back and give it one more shot at it..
Skorp won’t even skorp me…. how great would an ExNavyMid picture skorped so that I’m grabbing the boob of a whale or something be?!
you should grab skorps boobs
Yea I want to get married but really I don’t.
Like, I want to have children, but I don’t wanna push them outta my twat, cuz that hurts.
So no matter what…
EVERYTHING HAS A PRICE
that’s the lesson of the day kids
Drugs, my dear. They help greatly to ease the pain. For both marriage and childbirth.
ahhhhh…. the answer to everything! Vicoprofen.
Yea I had an epidural for the kid and now I use tequila for the BF
never seems to be enough though…
oh and Vicoprofen now comes with more Electrolytes!
Typical… using the childbirth rebuttal again.
Well, you may have childbirth with drugs, but have you ever had a REALLY bad case of diarrhea? Plus you DON’T have a prostate so you have no clue how much pain us men go through on a regular basis. You only CHOOSE to do it each time you WANT a kid. We don’t WANT diarrhea. And we don’t get drugs to deal with it.
Refute that.
Well, women get diarrhea, too.
Do you know how much it sucks when your partner leaves you wanting because “they couldn’t hold on” long enough? Have you tried bleeding from your nether regions once every 28 days? Or better yet, after the cycles stop, constantly having a broken internal thermostat? Or how about the eventual sagging of everything? Douche bags who assume that “petite female” means they’re weak and must be ‘taken care of’? Denial from basic activities simply based on gender? And of course, the constant pressure to change what you look like to fit the society, near unachievable standards of beauty?
You’re a while male. The world is your oyster. Stop complaining.
And this has what to do with marriage ??
This is about being a woman.. nothing changes here if you are married or not???
And you’re a racist and sexist hag….stop complaining.
I am in the middle of a divorce where I walked out and am not asking for anything, no child support, alimony, I dont want the house or the cars or anything. Sometimes it’s just better to get out.
I agree with you 10000% It’s about being able to cohabitate & love each other & expect some glitches along the way but to have the common sense to deal with them rationally & respectfully!
Great Blog
I too walked away from my marriage to a complete jackass. I took nothing but the kids.
I realize that he’s an emotional and intellectual fucktard and I was wasting time from day one with him. There was nothing to save, nothing to stay for. He’s dumb, he’s selfish, he’s poor and he’s got a small dick.
I do believe my next marriage will be better. I won’t get married unless I feel confident that I’ll have the communication and commitment from my partner that will last the rest of my life.
Not all women are out to screw you over. It happens, your examples are all things I’ve seen in my life too. It’s sad because those bitches make it hard for those of us who are amazingly wonderful, loving, caring and sexy mates.
I think we all get screwed in divorce. Kids, Husbands, Wives, families, friends… there is no winner.
I just think people need to learn who they are before they walk down the aisle. Too often we just into a marriage when it’s at it’s peak and we have no real clue who the hell we are or who they are.
no wonder you never got anything but the kids. your reasons for leaving the man were that he is a “fucktard” (i’ll have to ask a child what that one means), that he has a small dick (so, presumably you are either a supermodel or a hypocrite), and because he was POOR.
judging by your post, you hold yourself in extremely high regard, and strike me as the type who would have appeared in one of the stories above had your husband have had anything for you to take.
Odd how you claim to have taken nothing but the kids? The kids are worth more than anything you could have taken IF he wasn’t POOR.
As for a small penis–another shaming tactic women will throw around when they have nothing of substance to say. By the way, no matter how small a penis is it’s more than not having one–penis envy!
So you have to throw in the fact that he’s got a small dick? How are you faring, babe? You fat yet?
Geez.. to say he is dumb, selfish, and poor is one thing..but to say he got a small dick..thats gotta hurt.
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I like how when she was agreeing with you guys, you attack her.
Latent anger is unbecoming.
Yeah! What SHE said!
Um… I have a nice rack?
But my open-mindedness and my ability to be myself without giving a fuck who likes it or not, THAT is what REALLY makes me an attractive woman.
>>I do believe my next marriage will be better. I won’t get married unless I feel confident that I’ll have the communication and commitment from my partner that will last the rest of my life.
You assume if you decide to get married, it will happen? That is the biggest mistake most women make. Your last marriage, you were obviously scraping the bottom of the barrel, yet you assume this time you can marry a really wonderful man if you wish?
Your ex-husband’s dick is no smaller than when you married him.
Pfft. You’re not fooling anyone. You know you want to marry me.
Even though I’m divorced, I still believe in marriage. It just takes two people who love each other and are committed to making it work. I think second marriages have a lower divorce rate because people have learned from the mistakes of their first. I hope someday that’s the case for me.
thats why we’re eloping right? NJ just passed a bunch of laws
This is an interesting post. I read your comment and had to ask. Every single statistic I’ve ever seen says that second marriages have a 70% divorce rate, and third marriages have a 90% divorce rate, so where did you get your numbers that second marriages have a lower divorce rate? Thanks.