Fetishes:
Obtaining sexual excitement primarily or exclusively from an inanimate object or a particular part of the body.
Ok we all know what they are but…
What happens when your lover requests you do a sexual favor that your not really into. What if you find his/her sexual demand not enticing but rather nasty. What if it totally makes you uncomfortable and you feel like you want no part. Should we keep a free spirit sex mind going or can we put the breaks on some things without making our partner feel bad. Lets discuss what flies and what doesn’t
in the fantasy world of ” Could you just try it once ? ” From the simple to the extreme what is your No or Go Zone.
The simple:
For instance : I happen to find toe sucking revolting. Don’t get me wrong I love my feet. Next to my ass they are my favorite body part. I just don’t want anyone licking or sucking on my perfectly polished toes. I have many other areas of interest that do it for me. So when I see this on TV I have a similar reaction to eating a lemon. But that’s just me.
Then there’s the more extreme out there requests like, choking , peeing ( Think Carrie from Sex in the City) ,spitting .How about Hitting or Bondage . Or how about the request to wear your lingerie, heels.
The one thing that steps out of the box and puts us in a fantasy arena .
If our partner asks should we appease them? The key to it all is Trust. We have to be with a partner who we know for sure will not look at us and say ” Are you fucking crazy? ” That wouldn’t be good. So how do we approach this or how do we give the ” um no thanks” talk.
First I think if its not something that IS needed every time to get off then some are a go. As long as its not dangerous or bail money needs to be stashed.
Second make sure your not going to burst out in laughter. Again that might be a buzz kill and cause severe brain damage to the fetish freak. I mean your love.
Third - Give the ok if you are game and let the fetish play out. You never know. You might find a new turn on.
Last - If its off the hook in your freak zone : Just say you know what baby what if I suck this instead of that? Or take a foot fetish and instead of sucking , how about you massage. There’s always an alternative of give and take.
So here’s what I am in need of today .
Tell me what is the most bizarre request you have ever gotten?
What would you be willing to do and what would you say, “No fucking way.”
How far would you go for a partner? If at all.
There’s a freak in all of us ! Find your inner freak
Written by Lola
no lie, I wrote down this topic yesterday for future discussions LOL!
haha
well, I am totally into completely pleasuring my partner, so his wish is my demand… I’ll try stuff once as long as its got nothing to do with icky bodily waste, etc… that’s not my cup of tea
Hey let’s reopen the Clerks 2 Debate, don’t ever go ass to mouth! AHAHA
Ewww , OMG that is gross ! HAHA
Really ? I might have to draw the line . Maybe I am selfish
like i said I draw the line at piss n shit n other fluid disasters!
GROSSSSSSSSSS
“sometimes its ok to go ass to mouth”
just hearing that come out of rosario dawson was hilarious
wasn’t it???
Ass to mouth is seriously hot, and done right, can be very clean.
Good Morning Lola! What a topic to start the day off with! Haha.
I can’t say that I’ve been asked to do anything out of the normal, so I guess I’ve got lucky with that. I’m pretty open to trying new things, but of course there is going to be some limits there. Definitely no toe sucking, I love my feet but I hate for people to mess with my feet, no spitting (made me sick thinking about it), and definitely no peeing either! Some things make me wonder “How in the hell does someone get off to that?!?!” Guess that shows how different some people really are huh?
Like you said, I think it’s all about trust, no matter who the person is, if I’m not comfortable with them then they’re not going to get very far with me!
Good Morning !
even with trust somethings I just find freaky
I totally agree with you Lola!
I am up to any and many things, but the bodily waste is a no. I can even stand for a little rough stuff as long as he understands my safety phrase….”Fucking stop that!!!!!”. LOL.
LOL , strait to the point
OMG KL, that’s just wrong. ATM…never, ever…ever… If we’re drawing a line, that’s one that’s definitely drawn.
hahahah YUP!! I AGREE!!
KL, ATM , what is this code ?
It’s like a super secret handshake…
KL is me…
HAHAHAHAH
ATM is Ass to mouth!
Never go ass to mouth! LMAO!!
=D
you guys crack me up, I friggen love you
OOPS blonde moment
wouldn’t A2M be a preferable abbreviation? lmao
I’m pretty open when it comes to sexuality. As long as there’s no real pain (loss of blood, broken bones, etc…) involved, and no releasing of bodily fluids (aside from those in the orgasmic form), I’m more than happy to consider it. The best thing to do if you’re going to venture into territories unknown is establish a “safe word.” Once that safe word is said, things come to a halt. It’s a matter of comfort and giving control without relinquishing it completely. I’ve done some things in my time, and I’ve pretty much enjoyed every single one of them. Great blog! XOXO
I like that. So whats your code word?
My right hand likes to smack me around a little now and then, but that’s where I draw the line:)
Your hand is downright freaky
Ummmm WoW….. I guess I’m not a freak …. but I do like happy endings….:)
Dont we all
I love the toe sucking. Foot massages can be really erotic, too. As for bodily fluids, not a big fan. I had one girl who accidentally lost control of her sphincter muscles and dirtied my sheets after multiple orgasms. The sex was great up until then, after that I lost interest really fast. So I would have to say no excrement fetishes. Tried bondage, but I think you have to have the right person and a lot of trust there. Interesting blog Lola!
Thank you ,
so many guys are into the feet . I wonder if as many women are
I’ve never been asked to do anything really freaky but I draw the line at the bodily waste too..icky. I also wouldn’t be into sharing my partner either. I can handle a little spanking but no whips or objects. Other than that I’m game.
I just watched a show on swingers. I do not get that at all either
I would never do anything that involves peeing or defacating on someone. I can’t even go #2 when my boyfriend is in the same house, let alone do it ON him! Gross!
Also, any kind of extreme domination — rape fantasy, etc. — is a no-go for me. Anything that borders on violence makes me VERY uncomfortable.
Me too, I Like a lil kinky but not violent
Hmmmm…I agree with everyone on the body waste thats a definite NO NO. But the sucking of the toes , eating the pussy and so forth is fine by me. We all have are limits as how far we would go. No means No in my world. Love Ya girl hot topic.
Eating pussy is a go in every world I would hope !
I definetly agree with everyone on the body fluids thats just gross. There has to be trust with a partner to do some fetishes. I am a big fan of bondage. Although I was recently with a guy who would put his hand around my throat when we made out it was a little weird but kind of cool but scary at the same time. That was probaly the weirdest thing.
I think that can be hot if you trust the person TOTALLY
The worst, oh you said weirdest?, request from my partner was to let him go spend a week with the woman he had met on WOW. She was married with kids. Her husband wanted to meet him. They claimed to love each other… When I graduate next year he intended to go live with them. I freaked out & said no. Oh yeah, filed for divorce.
OMG ! Thats fucked up
If it’s with your significant other …
Anything short of a “hot lunch” (a tube of shit directly into the mouth), you should be willing to try, at least once.
Wouldn’t you agree?
No, I obviously did not agree. Some people are ok with that, that’s them. I’m not. Marriage to me means exclusivity. Otherwise, what’s the point of agreeing to spend your life with that someone if your going to spend it with many someones?? Just saying….
Besides, I turned out to be right. Two months later, she was complaining about a herpes outbreak, she found out that she was HIV positive, she believed she might slow down on the drugs…oh yeah, she was on her was to meet another guy. So much for love.
I can think of another body part that contains many more nerve endings than my toes to be sucked on.
I just say “not a fucking chance” to most of these little fetishes; all the chicks I want to piss on…would not be getting pissed on because it turned me on.
Yes I’m sure you can..
Oh boy .. I love angry bryce
Combine that with angry sex, and we’ve got something.
That’s what I said. My ‘No’, worked. He didn’t go, we are going through counseling. But, the trust is gone; after graduation, he’s on his own…..
I don’t blame you
The only hard and fast limitations that I have in the bedroom are No whips and chains. I don’t do pain or “wet” games and that nothing goes near my ass. There is a big sign there that reads “Exit Only”. Other than that if my partner asks I would be willing to try it at least once.
” wet games ” lol
See we all have limits
one time i had a girl ask me to donkey punch her before i came. i laughed at first , but she was dead serious. she told me to hit her as hard as i could. now i didn’t hit her as hard as i could, but i did knock her unconscious. she woke up a minute later w/ a headache and i felt bad for the rest of the day. she never asked me to do it again after that.
LMAO !!! oh god thats funny
I think the following items have a certain Zen-like erotic appeal:
- Flagpoles
- Unicycles
- Shetland ponies
- Circus midgets dressed as tiny little clowns
- Red Sharpie markers
- Beer
I like to combine two or three of these things at once and let the pleasure flow. You have no idea what a mind bomb a Shetland pony on a unicycle is when you’re wasted on beer.
I’m scared of you
My work here is done.
HAHAHAHA!!!
“A nine iron, ice cubes, and a buffalo. Live or stuffed, preferably stuffed for safety purposes.”
That Veronica Vaughn is one piece of ass.
Dude, that was the funniest damn thing ever!!! Beer really is erotic, though. Usually when I’m drinking beer with a guy I’ll burp real loud, and laugh my ass off about it… and they will be quite intrigued, thus seduction is complete!!!!
Probably anything that didn’t involve another guy being there.
wow thats a free spirit
The freak in me…
Having a girl tell me what kind of ham sandwich she will make me after sex usually gets me off pretty quick.
hehe… The truth is out: the way to a man’s heart, or head, is through his stomach.
I should know, I made my ex gain 70 lbs
Most bizzare request was not from someone I was involved with - he was just a friend of a friend. But he offered me the cost of a pedicure if I would allow him to suck my toes while he masturbated. He also wanted to cum on my toes. Foot fetishes seem to be the biggest fetish with men I meet. Actually had a customer at work get down on his knees and start rubbing my foot while I was at work one nite. But with the right guy - I like having my toes sucked so the foot fetish doesn’t creep me out.
What about some good ole salad tossing, aka rim job?
I like licking the balloon knot. All my buddies have no interest in licking their womans asses!! What is wrong with you people?
My honey doesnt “let” me do it, but when she is in the middle of an “O” and I am lickin like a dog drinkin water outta the toilet, every so often I slip south a lil!! LOL
Its not like I do it right after she takes a shit!! Its NEVER attempted until she is out of the shower and I’ve given her at least 2 oral orgasms.
I think its awesome and at least I am not asking to shove my dick in her ass every 10 minutes!!