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This is a true Story, the names of the innocent and not so innocent have been changed so that no one gets their ass kicked. And so the story goes ..

You’re invited to a friend’s house for dinner. Not just any friend. Your best friend. The one you share all with. Your ups , downs , trials and tribulations. It’s a night of drinking , eating and great convo. You think to yourself, it can’t get any better than this.   In you stroll to refill your wine glass, you’re followed by The Husband. No, not yours. HER husband. You think nothing of it and chat and laugh it up in the kitchen like you’ve done a hundred times before. When suddenly it happens. The Pass. Is this really happening? You ask yourself , is this man just overly flirting or is he crossing the line? You give him the benefit of the doubt for the moment, so you just brush it off… But then he takes it one step further. His hand is on your ass. No, not just grazing it. He’s squeezing your left cheek like he’s picking out melon at the supermarket. It’s that blatant! Has he crossed the line? You feel awkward , shocked and embarrassed. Then he comes in for the whisper, “Come on. I know you look at me. We are both sexual beings . You have no idea what I can do to you. Try it one time. I’m going to call you , say nothing just think about it.”   Holy Shit ! This man is making your heart race with fear . You want to flee this situation as soon as possible. So you try laughing it off, telling him he’s drunk and not to cause a scene and leave the room back to the party. Back to your friend who now you feel for, knowing her man is looking to play. Not just with anyone but with her best friend.   Being around them is no longer comfortable . You want to tell your friend what took place but should you? Would she believe you? Would it matter? Will it only make you look like you think your all that?. Will he reverse what happened on to you? These are all the unanswered questions that run through your head while contemplating this heavy bourdon. This has happened to a few woman I know actually and think about it . If you are the woman who gets no attention and then all the sudden here is this man offering you this without even stepping in a bar… Many woman take them up on it and throw the morals out the window. They say no fucking way but then they think about it and little by little they weaken.   So here it is the open question for today.. Have you ever been in this situation ? If you have what did you do. If you haven’t what would you do ?? Do you know anyone who went for it? I know a lot of you will be like no way , that is horrible but it happens more then you know. It’s a tricky situation . Think about it carefully and tell me . Would you speak up or shut up and why. xo LOLA xo

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One of my son’s has been watching Animal planet since he was 2. So needless to say I know more then any adult who does not work in the Zoo should know about animals. Watch any program on Animal Planet and we’ll hear about this animal or that animal who spend their entire lives combing the Earth for mates. Aren’t we nothing more than animals ourselves? So this opens the question up about Monogamy. Are we taught monogamy or is it natural? Seems our natural instinct is to go against this and we fight to make relationships one-on-one. Today I want to talk monogamy and how realisitic it is.